Don't give up when they don't listen the first time.
It's completely possible for your child to cooperate with your directions –
Without yelling, spending hours negotiating, or bribing them with a lollipop 🍭 to do what you asked
THE KID TALK TECHNIQUE is an online program for the grown-ups of kids ages 2-5
You don't want to raise your voice or make idle threats, but
It sure would be nice if your child followed your directions without you needing to nag.
Gentle parenting sounds good in theory, but what does that actually look like when your child is having a fit because you gave them a banana 🍌 (after they asked you for a banana)!
So many parents tell me they know what the DON'T want to do, but they don't know what TO DO when their child doesn't listen, melts down, or flat out ignores their directions.
You’re over time-outs, begging, and bribing,
but it doesn’t feel great if the only time your child listens is when –
- You lose your cool 😠 (and feel awful about it afterwards 😩)
- Or you bribe them with more screen time or a 🍭 to do what you ask.
If you’re like a lot of parents today,
You're still figuring out how to get your child's cooperation without endless negotiations, time-outs, or tears.
BUT WHAT ARE YOU ACTUALLY SUPPOSED TO DO –
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When your child refuses to pick up the sippy cup they just threw on the floor
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When it's time to leave the playground but your child won't come
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When you ask your child to go get their pajamas, but they take off in the other direction instead
Hi, I'm Sara
I am living proof that you can raise a cooperative and "well-behaved" child using a gentle and intentional parenting approach.
I love showing parents how you can make gentle parenting work for you if you have proven strategies and a plan.
With a Master's degree in Education and 30+ years of working with children, I've learned that the most important thing about raising cooperative kids isn't rewards or punishments. It's connection.
Because you can be kind, calm, and respectful, and raise a child who is the same.
AND ALSO…
Being a calm and connected parent doesn't mean letting your child be in charge of EVERYTHING.
Your child is hard-wired to look to you to show them how the world works. You are their loving and trusted mentor and coach, and offering them leadership and guidance is an important part of your role.
That's why I've created THE KID TALK TECHNIQUE for parents just like you.
Because I'm here for parents raising bold and brave kiddos who know their worth – who also realize kids still need to:
🪥 Brush their teeth
🐶 Not pull the dog’s tail
👋🏼 And hold your hand when you cross the street.
Lynne was done with yelling, bribing, and idle threats.
"My husband and I had been wrestling with daily power struggles with our four young children.
We were done with yelling, bribing and idle threats.
Sara taught us a specific and simple method that has been a go-to in our parenting tool kit.
It works every time, and no yelling or bribing required!"
♡ Lynne, mom of 4
THE KID TALK TECHNIQUE is my proven formula for talking to your child so they follow your directions without:
✨ Raising your voice
✨ Bribing them to cooperate
✨ Or giving up in frustration because they “just won’t listen.”
Deanna's sleep has improved and there are less daily battles.
"Sara’s program has been extremely valuable to our family!
It has helped my husband and I become a more unified front on our parenting style and language we use with the kids.
Sleep has improved and there are less daily battles."
♡ Deanna S.
There are 3 simple steps:
1. Montessori Foundations & Inner Work
2. How to Give a Direction
3. How to Follow Through
STEP 1: First you’re going to nail down the underlying energy of support that signals to your child that they’re not in trouble, you’re here to help.
You’ll learn the ideas and the Montessori inspiration behind the strategies that help your child lean towards cooperation, instead of away from it.
STEP 2: Then you’ll learn simple strategies for talking to your child in a way that invites their cooperation –
- Specific words and phrases that make your child more likely to follow your directions and less likely to fling themselves on the floor in protest when they’re not in the mood.
STEP 3: The final step, the last piece of the puzzle; the one that wraps 🎁 it all up and brings it all home 🏡 – is learning how to follow through with calm, consistent, and gentle support.
It's how you get from POINT A to POINT B without raising your voice, begging, or bribing. ⤵
THE KID TALK TECHNIQUE is a 6-week online program designed specifically for busy parents of young children.
You’ll focus on one topic each week so you can practice and apply what you’re learning without feeling overwhelmed. You certainly can do more than one topic a week, if you’d like, but the structure is intentionally designed to be simple, supportive, and realistic, so that you can create meaningful change, gradually and sustainably.
Lauren's boys argue less and seem happier and calmer.
I have 2 very active boys (5 and 8) and I was finding their behaviour quite challenging after school.
After implementing just that one strategy, our evenings have completely changed!
Now there is less arguing and they seem so much happier (and calmer!).
♡ Lauren McLoughlin
WHAT'S INCLUDED
✔ BITE-SIZED LESSONS
Actionable, step-by-step video lessons that walk you through the specific mindset shifts, key Montessori takeaways, and strategies that make up THE KID TALK TECHNIQUE
🕰️ The lessons are short, (under 15 min) so you can watch them in small pockets of time – during naps, after bedtime, or waiting in carline at school pickup.
You have immediate access to the videos when you join so you can get started right away! 🚀
✔ PROGRAM WORKBOOK
Your KID TALK TECHNIQUE workbook lists the action steps for each lesson, as well as any checklists, journal prompts, or practice scenario activities so that everything is in one place and easy to find. The workbook is a google doc that you can bookmark or you can download and print the pdf version if you prefer to write your answers by hand.
✔ WEEKLY REMINDER EMAILS
Each week you'll receive a "Momentum Email" with a brief introduction to that week's topic. These emails help keep THE KID TALK TECHNIQUE at the top of your inbox, and top of mind, helping you stay motivated and engaged in the program.
✔ TELEGRAM GROUP
Six weeks of support inside a private Telegram group; a space where you can ask questions, share challenges, and receive thoughtful input from me and other parents just like you who are raising kind and cooperative kiddos with peaceful and positive parenting.
Telegram is an online chat app like WhatsApp or Slack that allows you to write messages or leave voice notes.
Natural and adaptable suggestions
"The course is thought-provoking and the exercises encouraged me to reflect and feel prepared when difficult parenting moments arise.
The suggestions shared in the course are adaptable and felt natural for us to implement in our family life."
♡ Stephanie K.
To help you feel confident that you will know how to apply these strategies to your own life, there are a few BONUSES:
✨ BONUS #1: GROUP COACHING CALLS
Join me and other parents who are committed to a peaceful and intentional parenting approach in live group coaching calls on zoom.
You can ask questions, celebrate the changes you’re making, and work through challenges with our support.
We meet twice a month in a friendly, low-pressure space where you can share experiences and get practical guidance to apply what you’re learning in the program.
✨ BONUS #2: QUICK REFERENCE GUIDE
The QUICK REFERENCE GUIDE is a summary of the strategies and key phrases from the THE KID TALK TECHNIQUE, so you can share what you’re learning with your spouse, partner, nanny, or Nana.
Children thrive on consistency, and it’s easier for everyone when caregivers are on the same page.
This QUICK REFERENCE GUIDE helps you share the strategies you’re learning with your husband, wife, or mother-in-law so they can respond to your child in a consistent, supportive way even if they aren’t in the program.
It is also an easy way for you to revisit the ideas you're learning if you'd like a refresher or reminder.
✨ BONUS #3: TWO MORE WEEKS
Two extra weeks of support (for a total of 8 weeks of support) in the program.
THE KID TALK TECHNIQUE is paced to be very doable in 6 weeks. But – especially as a parent – LIFE HAPPENS.
I want you to have a little buffer so if some of the lessons or modules take a little longer, you don’t have to rush.
A map to refer to in the parenting wilderness.
"The biggest improvement for our family is that I have more tools in my toolbox when "troubleshooting" a parenting problem.
I don't feel so overwhelmed by "not knowing what to do" or not having a model to refer back to; the program has given me a map to refer to in the parenting wilderness."
♡ Syd Hardin
THE KID TALK TECHNIQUE includes –
- Library of bite-sized, actionable video lessons
- Example and practice “case study” exercises and journal prompts
- Weekly Momentum emails
- 6 weeks of support in the Telegram community
- Bonus #1 – Group coaching calls (every other week-ish)
- Bonus #2 – Quick Reference Guide
- Bonus #3 – 2 extra weeks of support
If you're ready for more cooperation –
without raising your voice, begging, or bribing, come on in. 🍭
When you join THE KID TALK TECHNIQUE you have “lifetime” access to the lessons. That means as long as the program exists in the world, you have access to the lessons. You can return to the material whenever you need a refresher, a reminder, or guidance for a new stage with your child.
The 6 modules are thoughtfully organized to help you move through the material at a steady, manageable rhythm (ideally one per week) so you can apply what you’re learning in real time.
You don’t have to “finish” within 6 weeks.
At the same time, engaging with the content during that window allows you to fully benefit from the weekly emails and group support as you practice, ask questions, and celebrate progress.
"Open Enrollment" means you can
Join anytime and get started right away!
You don't have to wait for the next launch or cohort.
Inspired by the mixed-age groupings of a Montessori classroom, anytime enrollment helps the group feel grounded and new people feel supported because there are others who are already settled in and know the lay of the land.
What age group is this for?
How long will this take?
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Still on the fence?
Let's hop on a call. I'm happy to answer your questions and help you decide if THE KID TALK TECHNIQUE is a good fit for you.
You are welcome to email me at sara@saraqmurray, and we can set up a time.
THE KID TALK TECHNIQUE is my love letter to parents of toddlers and preschoolers, and it's chocked full ways to help your child's early years feel more fun and less overwhelming for everyone.
I'd love to have you join us.
